How to Take Control of Your Life
I. You Can control your life! There is no such thing as being a helpless victim; you are a victim only if you choose to allow yourself to be one. You always have options; you simply need to exercise them. Some common options are:
- The choice of positive or negative thoughts
- Happy or sad emotions
- Rewarding or destructive relationships
- A nutritious or non-nutritious diet
- Your goals
- Career
- Lifestyle
- Environment
- Daily habits
- Friends
- Belief (or the dissolving of limiting beliefs)
Through these choices, you create your own physical, emotional, and spiritual health and happiness.
But, what about genetic predisposition to certain illnesses? Aren't you usually a victim there? NO. You can, through skillful living, prevent most of these tendencies from materializing.
Then what about unexpected accidents, such as natural disasters, car wrecks, criminal assaults, etc.?
Again, most of these potentials can be adverted - by heeding one's instincts and observing the clues around us. And even if an undesirable event does occur, you have the choice of learning and growing from it, or perceiving it in an unconstructive, defeatist way. You CAN be the director of your life! BELIEVE in this inborn ability.
II. How can I begin to assume control? The essential first step in gaining control of your life is accepting full responsibility for it. (If you blame outside circumstances for your situation, you thwart your own growth and give away your innate control. You actually cheat yourself.) YOU are responsible! Only you can make it happen!
III. Then what? Commit to gaining control! Make it a priority!
IV. What specific techniques or steps can I employ to gain and maintain this control? Having control of your life is a learned skill. Life any skill, to become proficient at it requires study, discipline, and practice. The following self-care techniques develop this skill and reverse old destructive patterns.
- Choose positive thinking. Reinforce this choice with affirmations during meditation.
- Choose positive emotions. Reinforce this choice with affirmations, reading, etc.
- Examine the pay-offs and causes of negative emotions. Laugh at negative emotions and let them go. Inhale a breathe of love. Feel its warmth throughout your body.
- Believe in your power to control your life. This opens channels to healing energy, influences your autonomic, involuntary nervous system, and thereby changes body chemistry.
- Choose a healthful daily routine.
- Include fun in your day.
- Respect physical laws, e.g. avoid junk food, cigarettes, drugs, etc.
V. How do you get what you want? Most of what you get in life, you ATTRACT. You can develop your internal magnet so that you attract those goals, opportunities, people, etc. that you desire. You develop this magnet by meditation, being centered, being spiritually and emotional positive, believing in yourself and what you do, being in harmony with the moment, etc. Utilize the 3 affirmations of light, love, and joy. See, feel, and radiate them. Surround yourself with an aura of them.
VI. Are your goals in line with your true desires? Get in touch with yourself, where you're headed, and what you want. Update your direction and goals frequently. The following questions can aid you in blending together your real self and your goals.
- What do you want to do most in your life?
- What is your most desired lifestyle?
- What are your favorite types of people?
- What are your favorite hobbies?
- What are your favorite sports?
- What are your favorite travel locations?
- What are your favorite types of books?
- What courses would you like to take?
- What experiences would you like to have?
- What skills would you like to develop?
- What relationship would you like to have?
- What needs are presently not being met?
- What are your highlight experiences of the last 5 years?
- What do you want to change right now?
VII. Do you welcome challenges and changes as opportunities for growth? They may at times be uncomfortable; growth isn't cheap! But NO growth is much more expensive.
VIII. Come alive! Charge yourself with vitality! Use affirmations during meditation and exercise. Practice being in this NOW moment and feeling love and joy in all you do., Have courage, take intelligent risks, stand up for yourself, and GO FOR IT! Lead yourself to happiness, creative expression, adventure, love and fulfillment! Take charge of your life!
Immediate action to take charge of your life:
- In my personal life, I now:
- In my business life, I now:
- In my emotional life, I now:
- In my spiritual life, I now:
- In my nutritional life, I now:
- For my beliefs, I now change or let go of:
- For my attitudes, I now change or let go of: